If you’ve been following my blog over the past week you’ll know that I’ve shared some very personal thoughts and experiences. I would bet that somebody out there has commented/ criticised some of the things I’ve written, along the lines of I’ve over shared or it’s a bit TMI or whatever. That’s right trolls, I can read minds too. Anticipating behaviour is a very good skill to have.
You might be thinking why do you care what some people might silently think? The truth is, I really don’t but I do care what I think and before I posted my recent posts, I wondered if it was a bit TMI and as the over thinker that I am, it evolved into is blogging even personal?
Or is it just over sharing, image crafting, basically Facebook but with more space to rant? (Nobody gives a crap about those essay style status updates do they? If I put this on Facebook you would’ve swiped away by now.)
So after much analysis, as usual. I have decided that it is very personal and the simple reason is, this is one of my catchphrases, people choose to look!
If I’d updated my Facebook status with “FML another miscarriage. I hate this day!” I am not giving anyone a choice. That is just there in their feed and they might not want to have that sort of news just there. Whereas with a blog, you have to click the link which means on some level, you are interested in my life. So you’ve accepted my invite into my personal life.
Family and friends are interested for obvious reasons. They like me and care about me.
Fellow bloggers might feel a connection through sharing blogs or find other mothers supportive so they have reason to be interested.
Then there are people that are just nosy. I admit I’m nosy, I love a bit of gossip or popcorning. As soon as the nature of the post becomes apparent, for example, a personal account of miscarriage, you’re free to click away if you personally wouldn’t put that online.
It might just be that the title intrigues a random stranger but then that still indicates that they’re interested in my opinions or experiences.
My favourite blogs are the ones that write honest accounts of their lives not just click bait titles and SEO friendly reviews. In that case I think it’s fair to argue that it’s not a personal blog and I know a lot of bloggers monetise their blogs but me personally, I prefer the raw style blogs. I’m not criticising reviews and click bait, I’ve got a couple but if that’s all you write then yes I think it loses personality.
What’s the point of all this? Well, just to answer my own question really. And also to shut down people that read open diaries (the way I see blogs) and instantly find negativity. Luckily I haven’t had any miserable, insecure people commenting on my life lately but I’ve seen a few trolling other blogs and it does annoy me.
I’ve written about this before but I really do think it’s the equivalent of walking into somebody’s home and then moaning about a pile of washing left to be done. Hey, you’re in their personal space if you don’t like it you’re free to leave!
It’s irrelevant whether just your mom reads or if you go viral. It’s your story and people have chosen to join you.