I didn’t think I had anything to contribute to #effitfriday this week. Then I went to the shop this morning. My old faithful followers might remember how much I hate Backseat Parenting. I haven’t had a Backseater for quite some time…
Well I had some idiot today. I arrived at the supermarket, didn’t have any change for the trolley so popped to Greggs to buy a drink. I was carrying Ollie because he was going to sit in the trolley so I had no pram.
If I am holding Ollie and I’m in a queue Ollie does this cute thing where he moves his head around ‘hiding’ from the person behind me in the queue. He is always happy if they join in and say Boo!
This person did say boo but then decided to ramble on, “Oh you’re so tired! Look at you, you need a nap aww you’re so tired!”
1. He’s not tired. I waited until he’d had his morning nap before I went out. Keep your opinions to yourself.
2. You don’t know my baby. What makes you think he’s tired? He’s started doing ‘funny faces’ lately which is basically blinking but on purpose. He finds it really funny because my funny face is closing my eyes and mouth then saying, “Bah!” And opening! He’s trying to copy. So even if you did see him close his eyes once don’t start rambling on that he needs a nap. He is playing.
3. What if he actually is tired? What are you achieving by telling me he needs a nap? You’re only going to annoy me by going on about it or make me feel bad for dragging him round the shops. When he is tired, I know! I don’t need a stranger psycho analysing my baby.
Ollie wasn’t crying or distressed in anyway. He was just waiting in the queue so why do nosy people feel the need to get involved? Even if he was crying, still don’t get involved. If I ever want help from a random, I will ask.
When people experience Backseat Parenting a lot I do wonder if they just don’t have their child under control. However, still don’t get involved. You’re only going to make them feel like they have even less control. In my situation, everything was perfectly under control. No drama whatsoever so go away!
Strangers, please relax. I do not need your analysis. I know my baby. I know every single cry, I know his body language, I know if there is a new spot on him, I know him. You do not know him or me.