April is c-section awareness month so it’s a good excuse to write about my c-section experiences. I make jokes that I’ve experienced every type of birth possible but it’s not really a joke, I actually have but incase you don’t follow me here is a quick summary… Breathe… Go…
Perfectly normal pregnancy with Ollie in 2014, went into labour naturally, dilated to 7cm with no drugs, had pethidine dilated to 10cm everything seemingly normal, I said he wasn’t coming out doctor rushed me to surgery because he’d turned, attempted forceps, not working, emergency c-section. Life or death type of emergency. Pregnant again 3 months later, missed miscarriage at 10 weeks, forced into contractions with drugs, genuinely hurt more than natural contractions, ‘gave birth’ in a toilet pan. Pregnant again in 2015, missed miscarriage at 21 weeks, wouldn’t allow me surgery had to be natural, given a sh*tload of drugs I told them I didn’t want any pain, delivered my baby in hospital. By the time I was pregnant again in 2016 I was not volunteering for any more stress, told them I wanted planned c-section, all went to plan and had c-section.
…see what I mean, I’ve done full labour, forced labour, no labour. Emergency section, planned section, attempted forceps and vaginal delivery. Is there anything I’ve missed?
Oh and I had a major c-section infection after Ollie!
The first point that I always like to raise about c-section is that there is no failure and I defy anyone to argue with me on that. In my experience I failed with vaginal deliveries because my babies were dead so if you think having babies via c-section is a failure, you’re wrong!
Secondly, some people seem to think it’s an easy way out… Pahahahahaha! This is a naive, idiotic opinion so get over that immediately.
Emergency sections are absolutely not for wimps, most stories are accompanied with a story where mother or baby nearly died so anyone that fought through a near death experience and come out the other side is absolutely not a wimp or taking the ‘easy way out’.
You can’t really walk properly for a couple of days and laughing and coughing is out of the question for about a week or so. After I had my miscarriages I was literally like ‘is that it?’ My mom said that’s what it feels like after a natural (she had two c-sections and one natural).
As for a planned being an easy way out… wrong again! For a start, you can’t just decide you’re having a planned section because you’re too posh to push. (Not a thing!) It is a medical decision that isn’t taken lightly.
They didn’t really want to give me a section, on paper I’m healthy. Bloods, BMI, urine etc, all normal the consultants tried to convince me to go natural but my midwife supported my decision because my reason for wanting a section, as I put it to them, “If I have to come into this hospital pregnant and walk out not pregnant with no baby shit is gonna hit the fan or I’m going to kill myself…”
So they agreed to let me have c section but still tried to sway me at every appointment.
I’d had first trimester and second trimester miscarriage, I wasn’t risking third trimester loss. Well, I was going to do everything I could to reduce the risk, it can’t be eliminated!
I knew that stress had contributed (caused) my second miscarriage and I didn’t want to be so stressed and anxious on the build up to labour that I ended up causing problems for myself. I needed a date in my head that I was walking out of hospital with my baby.
My reasons were mental health rather than clinical ‘need’ but it takes a lot to prove that your mental health requires a c section. Don’t think you can just be scared of birth and be given a c section because there are risks to c section too.
If anyone still thinks c sections are for wimps or an easy way out I will leave you with this question… Would you call a stillbirth mother a wimp who took the easy way out?
Absurd suggestion isn’t it?
But it’s very similar… nature went wrong. C sections save lives by having medicine intervening with nature at the right time. Still births could have often been saved if medicine intervened sooner. You wouldn’t call a stillbirth mother ‘less of a mother’. So why say that about a c section momma? She went through a birth where most likely somebody nearly died, but they survived. I’d say that’s the very opposite of being a wimp or taking it easy.