Adult Braces and the Meaning of (Blogging) Life…

I read a post about braces the other day and had a mini Facebook chat with a fellow blogger and it inspired me to write about my experience as a brace face! 

I submitted my ramble to HuffPo and it’s been published. I wrote it and submitted it because I thought it is not really relevant to my mommy and baby blog so I thought I get to write what I want to say but without having a pointless ramble on my blog.

Then I realised, its entirely relevant! I continued to write my blog after my initial private pregnancy diary, because I wanted to tell Ollie about his life and all about his Mommy and my thoughts and feelings since becoming a mom.  So wearing a brace was a massive part of who I am.  I liked being refered to as ‘the one with the brace’. I always thought it actually kinda suited me. I am a bit of a geek, old school and I have always been different and my brace was the epitome of many aspects of me.  I also made my blog pubIic in hope of finding like minded mothers or helping people. Again, my brace is relevant to that to! I might just help somebody. 

I love blogging and I love being part of blogging communities but I have got to admit, I have gone off some blogs that I used to love. Simply because some of them have lost their heart. I like reading about family life and innermost thoughts. I am interested in some reviews and find them useful in the right, relevant place.  I feel the same about ‘Top 10 Blogging Tips’ sort of posts sometimes they make sense but other times they just detract from an honest family blog. I’ve realised that I need to refocus because I started this blog for Ollie, not for free stuff to write about or tip style blogs that drive traffic.  

It is nice getting free stuff and writing reviews that I know will get traffic and its nice to think that I might help a new mother make a decison on a baby product, so it is a positive visit to the blog but I think with the availibility of free stuff it is easy to get sucked into becoming a review site that has no substance anymore. I am not saying I don’t think anyone should write reviews, I just think you should question how relevant it is. I have refused a few items because they make no sense on my blog!   

Trolls are good for traffic too, having trolls send hundreds of people to my blog because I don’t see the point in brelfies and breastfeeding groups, fine by me ladies, carrying on criticising.  Whether its positive or negative feedback… It is actually all positve because all feedback means that somebody cares about my opinion. 

When people try to start arguments with me, it is a compliment… My writing has inspired thinking and sparked some emotion.  I want to be a powerful writer. Obviously the positve side is preferred, I love it when people tell me I’m inspirational or that they have been through a similar thing and I’ve helped because it is exactly the same… My writing has inspired thinking and sparked some emotion.  

All this from a discussion about adult braces, I do keep telling everyone that I’m a deep thinker.  I think the real question for bloggers to ask themselves is… Are you selling your blog or selling your soul? 

I am not selling either.  I don’t mind if Momma Boss gets popular but I want it to be popular because I’m helping people or have found people that relate to me or are interested in my life.  Not because I’ve sold myself out by giving in to the temptation of irrelevant freebies.  

I would quite like to blog for a company or publish a book but they are separate writing ambitions. I would also love to be a brand ambassador but for something that I use and love! Not just to get free stuff. 

I will continue to review relevant products, some of which haven’t even been freebies, I chose to write about them because I just like writing.  I think it will be nice for Ollie to read about what I used for him when the world becomes iWorld and there is an app or gadget for everything! He’ll look back and it will be like a little museum. 

I don’t want this to sound like I’m just critcising bloggers that write reviews because I’m not. I write reviews. I have just been thinking and realised the meaning of my blog is Ollie’s life and development.   

I am writing about my life and my baby.  I have re-categorised my blog and added a new section ‘All About Mommy and Daddy’ to help me stay true to my reasons for blogging.  I want to keep the original meaning of my blog. I like my early posts that are just honest and not written around people that might be offended or written for SEO. (I could also write an article about why I like writing for SEO…)

Oh and here is the brace article:

Adult Braces Indicate High Self Esteem. 
And here’s some photos of my little train tracks.

 

adult braces
Summer brace face…
  
adult braces
Winter brace face…
  

I miss my brace…
  • Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and I loved seeing the pics :). If your little one needs braces, would you encourage them to have them when they were a teen, or wait until they’re an adult?

    Blogging and selling out… now that’s a very interesting subject. I have friends, and they’ve changed over the years. My older friends would tell you I’ve sold out. That I’m affiliate link crazy and always promoting my content. Well I know something they don’t… blogging isn’t free. I still have bills to pay and if I write something that’s valued, and get a small commission then there is nothing wrong with that. However, if I only write a post with the express intention of making money, then by all means judge me. I’ve not done it yet, and I doubt I will do it, but to older friends it looks like I’ve “sold out” because in their minds that’s what it looks like.

    As for people being offended… if you worry about offending people you’ll never write another word again!

    • MommaBoss

      I would let my little one have braces as a teen definitely! It’s better to have them young before teeth set into place. I wouldn’t make a big deal about it for him even though I make a big deal for me!

      I wasn’t judging anyone for writing reviews or having affiliates, I have both. I’ve just realised that’s not why I started blogging and I want to stay true to my original intent.

      If my circumstances change then I’ll admit that the function and purpose of my blog has changed and I’ll write specifically for SEO and accept all kinds of reviews and assignments but at the moment I want to keep it the way I started! I’d love to blog for a job but I need to remind myself it isn’t my job.

      Definitely agree about not writing around people. I had a break from blogging a few months ago after my first experience with abusers but then I thought, I can’t be held responsible for people choosing to read MY blog and opinions! Everyone has a choice to click away! Xx

    • MommaBoss

      I would let my little one have braces as a teen definitely! It’s better to have them young before teeth set into place. I wouldn’t make a big deal about it for him even though I make a big deal for me!

      I wasn’t judging anyone for writing reviews or having affiliates, I have both. I’ve just realised that’s not why I started blogging and I want to stay true to my original intent.

      If my circumstances change then I’ll admit that the function and purpose of my blog has changed and I’ll write specifically for SEO and accept all kinds of reviews and assignments but at the moment I want to keep it the way I started! I’d love to blog for a job but I need to remind myself it isn’t my job.

      Definitely agree about not writing around people. I had a break from blogging a few months ago after my first experience with abusers but then I thought, I can’t be held responsible for people choosing to read MY blog and opinions! Everyone has a choice to click away! Xx