Blog Greatest Hits.

I’ve been blogging for a long time but it’s been 6 months since I started making an effort to share my blog. I created a Facebook page in January and joined Twitter in March so I thought I’d take a look at my ‘Greatest Hits’. All I mean is, go into my stats and look at my most popular posts over the past six months.

If you want to make blogging into a career stats do matter! Simply because if it is your career then it is a business and numbers always matter in business. Momma Boss isn’t a business blog but it is good practice for a business blog that I’m creating.

If you’re blogging for fun then it really doesn’t matter about stats. However, your Greatest Hits will tell you what engages your readers and inspire writing ideas.

Momma Boss TOTP.
Momma Boss TOTP.
So here are my Greatest Hits.

January.

You Know You’re a Mom When…

My first month! That post got twice as many views as anything else. This fits in the Mommy humour category.

February.

Nine Stupid Things People Say to New Moms.

Again Mommy humour. A good indication of what works on my site. This was also published on HuffPo and Her Interests later in the year. Funny works!

When Do Babies Crawl?

An SEO friendly title. Cute story for my family and friends, informative and nosy material for others.

March.

Why Do I Write a Blog?

Again informative and nosy. Interesting for people to nose at my life and an insight to why I blog and informative for bloggers.

Would You Let Your Son go to Ballet?

This is also an SEO friendly title. Written for people to ask Google but also clickbait title because it doesn’t indicate which way I feel. It could be criticising or praising ballet, you don’t know unless you click so there is potential for debate. 

April.

#BlogFriends

Informative. This was a post to help bloggers work together and get positive experiences out of blogging.

First Ollie-Day Abroad.

This got a lot of views purely for the nosy element. We all love to be nosy! Babies, holidays, weddings, houses… Guarantee people want to nose. Try it! I could psycho analyse the crap out of why we nose at these things but I’ll save that for another post.

May.

Attachment Parenting.

This shows you the power of trolls. For most people this was an informative post. Talking about why I’m an attachment parent. However, one person pounced on my BF views and attempted to debate (argue/troll) with me and shared the post on various facebook groups. Thanks!

MADS 2015.

Again informative and creating a positive blogging atmosphere. Informing people that didn’t know about the MADS and informing certain bloggers that I’d nominated them.

One Year Later… 

I’m picking a third one for this month because I’m not sure attachment parenting was genuinely popular or just trolled over. This one shows you… Nosy works! It was before/ after photos of my house one year after moving in.

June.

Getting Your Blog Published.

Informative. Again, creating positivity in the blogging world. I could psycho analyse this too but to sum up, as a blogger you are potentially going to gain something from reading this. There is also a nosy element of “oh where are you published?” Even if you’re not interested in getting published yourself.

Why I’m not Concerned about Screen time. 

This was a good debate topic. Screen time and technology is often in the news so it was relevant and the title indicates potential to debate with me. There was also a Mommy humour element in reminiscing about VHS tapes.

So what do my Greatest Hits tell me? What do my readers want?

Inform.

By informing my readers I am either updating them on Ollie’s life, great for family and friends. Or I’m providing advice, usually on something they’ve searched for. I sometimes feel like ‘who am I’ to write this. I’m no expert! I think it’s called Imposter Syndrome. You’ve got to remember people choose to read your blog. This indicates that they’ve either searched for something and you’ve shown up based on their search terms or the title has invited them to read aka they’re interested in the topic! So informative blogs work really well.

Nosy.

I think that sounds like a negative word but I don’t mean it to be negative. We are nosy! Women especially. If you drive past an accident you slow down to nose. If someone leaves their front door open most people are dying to look in! If a randomer from school posts a wedding album I bet you click through every photo thinking hmmm my dress was better! It’s part of our human nature!

I guarantee if you’re a blogger that I follow I have read you’d holiday posts because holidays are my nosy thing! Some people are more into houses or weddings, I’m all about the hols!

So writing posts that allow people to nose into your home or personal life = popular!

Debate.

Everybody loves a debate. Some people prefer a healthy debate, others like to troll and insult your life. Whichever one it is, you’ll get good traffic! I originally tried to block my trolls then I realised… I must be a good writer if I spark this much emotion from a complete stranger that hates my life but they’ve never met me. Most Harry Potter fans don’t know JK Rowling but they get emotional over her work.  Emotional reactions to your writing is a good thing! It’s a sign of a well written piece. (Or a sign of their insecurities if you’ve just hit a nerve!)

I personally don’t want to be controversial but if people take my life that way, I’m not too bothered.

Mommy Humour.

Being able to make a joke out of things makes your readers happy! My funny posts could easily be rewritten to be FML I hate my life posts and negative people would love it but making light of a situation is much better for people to read. Everyone loves a laugh!

If you find that negative/ moaning posts are very popular, you might want to get some new friends! Good friends do not fuel negativity!

So that’s just my breakdown of my Greatest Hits. What do your Greatest Hits tell you about your readers? 

"Woah that was a long post Momma... I'm tired now!" (Cute tiny Ollie!)
“Woah that was a long post Momma… I’m tired now!”
(Cute tiny Ollie!)
Adventures of a Novice Mum

I Refuse to Breastfeed.

Well, what a horrific mother I am. I am also a good writer and have been slightly manipulative. 

Right, now that I’ve enticed you into clicking the link you’ve proven something to me… Breastfeeding has just become a source of gossip and bitching. “Oh look another breastfeeding post to rant or gossip about.” It’s ridiculous.

All this time focusing on gossip and the opinions of strangers, scrolling through social media getting all worked up. What a waste of time that could be spent at the park with your kids!

I admit I’ve wasted time scrolling too.

The title is missing a chunk actually…
I meant to type, I Refuse to Write About Breastfeeding

I going to stop writing on the subject because by joining in with the rants I’m just fuelling the fire and helping turn feeding our babies into a spectacle and I don’t want to be part of that anymore. 

I’m also going to stop reading breastfeeding related blogs/ rants. They no longer offer anything useful to me. 

I have written quite a few posts about breastfeeding. I wrote them for two reasons. 1. To tell Ollie about my frustrations as a mother. 2. With the sad hope that I might just find somebody on my wavelength.

    Somebody pro breastfeeding but thinks brelfies are nothing more than a charade creating attention for people that claim they don’t want attention.

      Somebody that thinks breastfeeding is completely normal and doesn’t see why everyone is on a mission to normalise the most normal thing in the world.

        Somebody that agrees with public breastfeeding but doesn’t see why it can’t be discreet. 

          Somebody that doesn’t understand why it’s only ever breastfeeding mothers that are on a mission to #normalise. Surely they, of all people already think it’s normal?

            Somebody that accepts it is ok for us to all have an opinion everyone doesn’t have to be pro breastfeeding despite it being natural. 

            Is there anybody out there? 

            All I’ve succeeded in doing is attracting insecure mothers that think it is acceptable to take their issues out on me by leaving horrible comments and sharing my blog in crappy Facebook groups where everybody apparently agrees that I’m a clueless twat. Well done ladies! You’re really painting a nice picture of breastfeeding mothers. 

            I know this isn’t a true representation of all breastfeeding mothers. I have met a handful of secure breastfeeding mothers through blogging. Unfortunately, in general I mostly attract the insecure women that are offended by my life. 

            The reason I rarely encounter any nice, normal breastfeeding mothers is because the secure mothers couldn’t care less if I, a random stranger think a brelfie is pointless. They couldn’t care less if I, a random stranger formula feed because I nearly died. And they couldn’t care less if I, a random stranger is pro breastfeeding but personally would prefer to sit in a corner out of the centre of attention. 

            It’s not breastfeeding that needs to be normalised, it’s the mothers that think it’s ok to insult strangers for having an opinion, that my friend, is not normal.

            It’s not breastfeeding that we need to raise awareness of, it’s the mothers that think it is ok to become online bullies, slagging off strangers for having an opinion! How about we start #troll-ies and screen shot the comments and name and shame these ignorant people? 

            I really think it’s a shame that these sad people use an innocent persons life to make them feel better about their own life.

            I don’t want to join Breastfeeding groups or campaigns, it’s not because I hate breastfeeding moms or don’t support feeding. It’s because I’m an attachment parent and I believe in trusting your instincts, not following a crowd. It’s how I am in life in general but especially when it comes to parenting. I would gain nothing from taking a #brelfie or joining a support group. That is just my personality. I trust myself more than anyone else. It does not by default mean I’m criticising people that find groups or campaigns helpful. 

            If you seek validation from a few likes and favourites that is fine by me but please accept that I do not seek validation from strangers saying ‘bravo your breasts have fulfilled their function’ by digitally liking me. 
            It doesn’t mean I’m slagging off breastfeeding mothers. It doesn’t mean I think I’m better than anyone else.

            It simply means my life has led me down a different path to you. That’s what we all need to get in our heads! 

            Modern Dad Pages

            #BlogFriends

            A couple of days ago I posted an idea called #BlogFriends in a Facebook blog group.  I thought it might be a good idea to explain it and why I thought of it so that anyone that sees the hashtag can easily join in.

            For anybody that doesn’t know me, I’ve worked in bars since 2004 and have been a manager since 2007.  This is briefly explained on my welcome page.  One of the (many) things that makes me different to other managers is that I don’t see anyone as a rival or competition.  I see them as opportunities and potential to grow.  If a new bar opens I don’t think, “They’re going to steal my customers!”  I think, “Great!  Bringing more people into the area!”

            If a new bar opens I would try and cross-promote, this is something I do with our local theatre.  Show your ticket for free entry, for example.  Instead of moaning it will be quiet because there is a show on.

            I would love to be a full time blogger one day but I didn’t make it as a MommaBoss overnight so I won’t be MommaBoss of blogging overnight either.  It takes a lot of work and smart thinking.  I am currently writing a blog called ‘How to Be a Momma Boss.’  As I have noticed so many similarities between running a bar and running a blog.  I currently don’t blog as a job but if you do, you’ve got to think of a blog as a business and for that reason, I don’t have any blog rivals or competition.  If somebody’s blog is ‘better’ or has more followers or has won awards, that’s great.  That doesn’t make me bad by default.

            However, we can work together to raise our own profiles and each others.  If somebody shares my blog it means somebody is going to click through their page/ Twitter or blog to reach my post.  So we’ve both had traffic.  That’s good.

            If somebody writes a similar argument or counter-argument, instead of becoming rivals, we should say “My thoughts are backed up here by X blog attach link”  There we go… traffic to both blogs!  And it makes us more informative as we are either giving more information or providing a balanced argument.

            If you formula feed and find a good breastfeeding post, instead of getting defensive add a link and say, “These are my beliefs based on my lifestyle MommaBoss argues a great counter argument here!” Then we’re providing better information for our readers and driving more traffic to both blogs.  The thing with blogs is, most people will be looking for the information.  So they want to be informed well.  Most mommy blog readers are moms or dads.

            So I created this #BlogFriends idea.  You know how there are all these things on Facebook ‘my five fave photos, you’ve been tagged so add your five and nominate more people’.  etc.  It’s that sort of thing.  If you find a good post share it using the #BlogFriends and if you’re tagged you have to share one of your favourite blogs and so on…

            Nobody wants to spam their blog everywhere but we do all want to build our sites so let’s share the work and build each other! Working against people does not work.  It’s the same principle for suppliers too.  I’ve had some really co-operative companies work with me on my review section and I’ve also received some shocking customer service.  As if I’m just trying to get freebies.  No.  I’m trying to build my site and in turn build your business.  Some people just aren’t business minded at all.  Being selfish is not the way to succeed.

            I’m 29 years old and I’ve got nine years left on my mortgage and if anyway wants to know one of my secrets I’ll share this one, “Always be nice!” Nobody wants to work for/ with a C***! One of my writing ambitions is to write a memoir about how I’ve survived as a young female manager, where I’ll publish all my secrets.

            You are the secret to your success.

            Be nice!  Share blogs and work together.  #BlogFriends