The pen is mightier than the sword.

If people choose to look…

Ok so one of my many sayings in life is, “if people choose to look…” Anyone that knows me well knows exactly what I mean. For anyone else I usually conclude that sentence with, “they may or may not like what they see.” I’m the sort of person that will get soaked in the rain and then get changed on the back of a coach because I don’t want to sit in wet clothes for three hours. If anyone chooses to turn their head and stare at me, that is their choice but I will not change my outlook on life because a few miserable people do not agree. Another example is, if I hear a song that I like in a shop, I’ll do a pirouette! I like dancing, I like the song, why not? Again, if somebody chooses to take time out of their day to look at my performance then I cannot be slagged off if they don’t like it. I didn’t ask you to look. Refer back to my ‘True Happiness’ blog and I think it’s most likely the miserable unhappy people that will be in a mood over my public displays. Happy people couldn’t care less if I want to dance in the street or not. If fact they’ll probably join in!

I often get my 9 year old nephew into trouble because he completely understands my “if people choose to look” philosophy and yet so many adults don’t get it.

Now the reason for this blog that is off on a tangent and not directly related to Ollie or parenting is because some people don’t like my blog, yet they are choosing to look. Taking time out of their busy lives to not only read about my wonderful life but to purposely look for things to slag me off about and then start Facebook conversations taking the piss out of me. Well done. Really proving to the world how mature you are. I have purposely blocked three people on Facebook because they have demonstrated that they don’t like me by either ignoring me, insulting me or even worse, slagging off newborn babies. If you are one of these three people – why the hell are you reading my blog? I purposely did you a favour by blocking you so you don’t have to see my life yet you have not only somehow found my blog, you are sharing the link on Facebook messenger and telling people to go and find reasons to criticise someone they’ve never met. Seriously what is wrong with you? Are you people so insecure that to make yourselves feel better about your existence you go onto some innocent persons baby blog and slag them off? I could easily get mad but you know what, I feel deeply sorry for you.

Yes, you are entitled to your opinion and I welcome other points of views on my blog. There is a difference between stumbling across a blog on a Google search or reading a friends blog and saying, oh you know what I don’t quite agree with you there… Fair enough, we all have different views. But to purposely seek out my personal blog just to make personal attacks at me when you don’t know me (and one of the people I’ve blocked has never even met me!) seriously I feel sorry for you. It is just nasty and outright rude.

If anyone is insulted by my comments on my iMom blog then you are admitting to being the person that made nasty comments about me and my baby. So instead of encouraging people to criticise me, have a good long look at yourself and you might see that you owe me an apology. If you didn’t make any comments, then it’s not referring to you is it?

I don’t really mind people insulting me, I spend a lot of time analysing human behaviour and word choice and I usually understand people better than they understand themselves but the sort of person that will slag off my baby or anyone else’s baby for that matter, I don’t want you in my life. I won’t be nasty and cause arguments on your wall or tell people the horrible things you’ve said but I just can’t associate myself with somebody that has horrific thoughts about a newborn baby. Don’t be mad with me just ignore me. I haven’t done anything wrong, I started a little online diary for my family and friends then made it public because a lot of people like it and agree with me and I’ve helped some people see sense in their lives.

It is tempting to confront the people that are being vile and nasty but I’m a nice person and I’m not aggressive and as my dad would say, “The pen is mightier than the sword.” Unintelligent people fly off the handle and shout their mouth off on public forums/ places, clever people articulate themselves using words that have been thought about and written down.

If you don’t like my blog here is the solution for you… Don’t read it! That goes for everyone, not just the horrible blocked people. I do not want to cause stress to anyone’s day. I write because I love writing and a lot of people like reading and find it useful. If you don’t like, don’t worry your pretty little heads over my points of view. I am going to leave this post on my blog so when Oliver reads it when he’s older he can see that being nasty doesn’t get you anywhere. Oliver mate, when you’re old enough to read this remember, no matter what situation you find yourself in, it is NEVER better to be rude. I know you’ll be a good boy because you have a good mom and dad! Xx

  • It’s so nice to be reminded that my grandson has such caring parents. Dave has been brought up to respect other people’s opinions too, but there have also been times for us all when respecting those opinions is not enough – always when they try to force their opinions on us, often persistently. Just walking away appears rude but sometimes it is the best option. I know Ollie will have a respect for others, and far more importantly a zest for life – happiness sometimes HAS to be shared with all who are prepared to receive it. Those who shun happiness, or feel unable to share in it have the problem, never the sharer xx

  • Jo when you started your blog I thought it was a brilliant idea. I wished I’d wrote down my thoughts with the 3 of you. ( my 3 daughters ) I would love to be able to hand over those books now and say this is how I felt at that time. I still think your blogs are brilliant but I wish you had made a personal old fashioned book which was yours to keep and let only the ones that truly love and know you read it. There are a lot of nasty people in the world . Jo don’t give any one the chance to write nasty comments, keep writing because your brilliant but keep them to yourself . I know you are such a kind, caring and very sensitive person. You don’t like arguing, you would rather hurt inside and keep quiet to keep people happy. Jo you are a brilliant mommy it’s why Ollie is so content and such a lovely happy little boy. Michelle was a good baby then I had my little Jo. Gosh you were a screamer, I could not put you down. I tried every thing. I then had Carly another happy baby. Are babies born happy or is it down to their parents. I always thought I did the same for the 3 of you so you just get niggly babies. Wrong .babies are individuals who only cry when something is wrong. A good mom will solve their problem. Ollie is always smiling, it says it all. Jo I love you so much. I wish I could put over things as well as you do but I think iv made my point .xxx

  • I’m sorry you’ve had to experience this. It sounds like online bullying to me and just as bad as bullying in real life.

    My blog is public and I love that I am making new friends and forming new relationships through it. I also love that my parents can read it too. I often read things I don’t agree with – that’s what the back button on my browser is for! I’m glad you haven’t been out off blogging, it’s a great thing to do 🙂

    • It basically was online bullying but luckily I’m not as immature as them so it doesn’t get me down anymore, I feel stupid for letting them get to me. In a weird way it actually inspired me to keep writing! I feel sorry for those people, they are very insecure and self absorbed at the same time. Thanks for your comments! 🙂