Should I let my boy do ballet?
A mommy debate that keeps popping up in the news is this whole gender specific toy thing. Would you let your boy play with dolls? Etc. My opinion on that needs to be a separate blog because in general I think people are missing something out. Stay tuned to find out…
Today I’m going to talk about a similar topic. Dancing boys. Would you let your son go to dance classes? If you’ve followed my blogs for a while you might remember ‘Billy Elliot’ where I’d nicknamed Lamby on the day I found out Lamby was a Billy not a Darcey!
I love dancing! I love all things dance related! I love the theatre! So any offspring of mine will have a lot of exposure to the arts. Dave sings in a quartet and works for an illusionist so if our kids don’t love a good show I’ll be shocked!
I’ve always said I’d be so proud if my son could dance and if you’re in any doubt I’d like to introduce you to Patrick, you probably already know him…
Need I say more really?
Every woman watching Patrick wants to be his wife! She is pretty amazing too! He is just something else though isn’t he? I could just watch that video all day, only taking a break for my leading man, Mr Kelly.
This time it’s really love indeed! I am a little bit in love with him if I’m honest…
There are certainly forms of dance that are more cool for boys like Irish, Tap or Street. Ballet and Disco are generally considered the more girly types of dance with all the pink and glitter! I’d still let Ollie go though.
If any of my Birmingham friends are reading this I’d like to recommend Gra Na Rince School of Irish Dancing. If you’d like your son to be the next Michael Flatley then it starts here! Weekly classes with Louise then before you know it your little Mikey will be winning competitions and becoming world champion!
Benefits of Dancing for Boys.
- Keeping fit and healthy. Thats the obvious one but it isn’t just a weekly class, once you can dance you don’t stop! I call it Dance-itus! I’m forever prancing around and pirouetting down aisles. Kids have got even more energy so you’d never have to worry about them getting enough exercise!
- Keeping it real. I will encourage any children I have to ‘keep it real’ and be true to who they are and do what they want! I will not force Ollie to go to dance classes but if he likes dancing (because he will see a lot of it) and he wants to go then I’ll encourage him to do what he wants to do and not conform to social conventions. If boys go dancing its more likely that they really want to do it rather than just because they’re mates do it so encourage them to be who they want to be.
- Confidence. Being able to perform will give a child a lot of confidence, especially if they are choosing to do it and not being forced by psycho moms. (I will probably be a psycho stage mom.) Dancing gives children another group of peers outside of school and also gets them interacting with adults more, with teachers, judges, other parents. This will help them be confidence talking to people.
- Self-Esteem. Everybody wanted to be that kid that could cartwheel and land in a split. That could be your kid. People (children and adults) try to align with the leaders of the group. If your boy is seen as the cool kid, everyone will try to align with him to raise their own popularity. He’ll have high self esteem from a young age.
- Realistic goals. Dancing gives kids (boys and girls) something to aim for and enables them to work towards realistic goals. Dancing also helps deal with rejection and stops your kid thinking they’re the best at everything. They will encounter better dancers and not get all the medals. In real life you keep going and don’t give up! I can’t stand it when kids are raised as ‘princesses’ being told they’re the best at everything, they’re just being set up for rejection. I’ll tell Ollie he’ll always be the best to me but there are more skilled people in the world and he can be one of those people if he keeps practicing.
The reasons people give against boys dancing are silly.
He’ll get bullied. If he’s bullied, he’ll have confidence and self esteem to understand that they are jealous or insecure. If the bullies aren’t jealous of the skill they’ll be jealous of the reward and recognition that comes with it. I’ll psycho-analyse the kids anyway, Ollie will be fine. He can just hop-chasse-pas-de-bouree away! Or he’ll have the stamina to outrun them or the flexibility to high-kick them in the face. I’m not encouraging violence… Just don’t hurt my boy hypothetical bullies of 2021 (ish).
It’s not very manly. Oh yeah commitment, strength and loyalty are not qualities that women look for in a man…
He’ll turn gay. Bloody ridiculous. All male dancers aren’t gay and all gay men can’t dance so it’s just an unnecessary stereotype.
So there you go… Dancing is cool for boys! I would encourage Ollie to go to classes. I would never force him but I did take him to see the male Swan Lake when he was a bump and play Moses Supposes to my belly, just embedding the ideas as soon as possible!